Just this morning I was discussing the value of open communication in relationships - not just romantic, but familial, friendship and coworker as well. And as "coinkidink" would have it, I checked one of my regular blog reads and today's post examined the "thinking too much" syndrome that some "anal"-yzers encounter when faced with relationships. Then, being the "anal"-yzer that I am, as well as embarking on better communication techniques, I concluded that whether cogitating or relating, "anal"-yzing is just a severe and inhibiting form of communication. In English, what I am trying to convey is that communication at its most honest and straightforward is the comlier cousin of analysis at its most OCD. For many years I wondered why my relationships floundered even though I had a marvelous vocabulary and the intense counseling to back it up. However, I failed to recognize that I was not only analyzing my communication but "anal"-yzing it and ending up communicating very little and expecting perfect results from what I thought were very detailed communiqués.
Realization is the first step, practice is the scary, "go-out-of-your-comfort-zone" skip, and expectation fulfillment is the leap. I'm trying it, and it's working out more grandly than I could ever have imagined.
Updates to follow.
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